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I hope that everyone is feeling well, doing good, and sharing her joie de vivre with others.
This week's Wondering Wednesday came from a perplexed wife. She and her husband were separated due to his deployment and she wanted to send to her husband a photograph of herself in her underwear.
Sounds pretty tame, right?
As always, I never say, "Here is what you should do" because I don't know anyone who writes to me personally; rather, I say, "Here is what I would do or what I have done in a similar situation."
In this case, I have a personal experience to share, so my answer is based on what I have done when presented with such a situation in the past.
Let's start with some history. When my late husband and I were separated due to his deployment in 2007, there was a fad of military wives sending their husbands photographs that were for his eyes only, to be carried on his phone where he could view them anywhere. (The ability to send photographs via cell phone was brand new then, and leave it to the military mind to come up with a new use for technology. [dry humor])
Naturally, my favorite Marine wanted a photograph of me and asked why I had not joined in with the other wives. I thought for a few minutes and decided he was shaking the pedestal, which I tried to treat as though he was playing a prank or joking, at least at first, so I wrote back: "LOL: It must be April Fool's Day in [place]."
Nope. He was serious. Floating in a sea of loneliness and stress, he wanted me to do something with which I was very uncomfortable, at minimum, and which was probably a sin according to our mutually held faith.
This time, I thought for a few hours and made several "T-chart" lists, pro and con. Here was the major "con" that I came up with and that ended the discussion:
"What if you lose your phone? I don't want [name of enemy] or [name of a certain man who had expressed interest in me - ick!] looking at me."
Where humor had failed, dread won the day. And those remain my basic concerns about sending such photographs.
A few years ago, I replied to one person's text, and another person received my text. These mix-ups happen. A photograph could be sent to Mr. Husband and end up someplace quite unintended.
"Mobile devices" as they are now called are lost or stolen every day.
Co-workers and friends also snoop on each others' mobiles.
Therefore, I personally would not take "naughty selfies," nor would I send them to my husband (or to anyone else, for that matter).
As always, I hope that my little "woman-to-woman" ideas have helped.
PS: If my husband had persisted and had made the photograph a submission issue, I would have spoken to our priest for guidance.