01 January 2018

Good-Bye 2017, the Year of the Impossible: Happy 2018!

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Greetings, Ladies!

I hope that everyone is feeling well, doing good, and sharing her joie de vivre with others!

For me, 2017 was the year the impossible came to pass.  I was, at long last, able to end a situation that had become increasingly unsafe for me. A friend and her husband were available to help us materially in an amazing way. I began to heal from emotional pain that I had shunted aside for several years, and I began to heal physically from the effects of ignoring my emotions.  Had anyone asked me a year ago if any of these things could have come to pass, I would have replied in the negative.  

I have some plans for 2018 that I hope will come to pass.  In the meantime, I am preparing to relocate (but I don't yet know where) and preparing for new ways to support my family (although I don't 100% yet know what those might be).  All as God wills and leads.

In the meantime, as well, I am continuing to post Basic Marriage Enrichment classes on my Sound Cloud account, and my curriculum remains available on my Etsy storefront along with other e-books I have written.

I pray for all of you blog visitors each day and hope that you do the same for us.

May God heap blessings on you in 2018!

Agape always,
Cynthia  


20 December 2017

The Feminine Persona, Part One: Feminine Looks

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Dear Ladies,

Would you like some ideas to help you to look more feminine?  I have a new podcast on the topic (an excerpt from my Marriage Enrichment curriculum) at my Sound Cloud site.

I hope that you enjoy my little "woman-to-woman" ideas.

Agape always,
Cynthia

Link to the Podcast:  https://soundcloud.com/user-567009577/a-fascinating-companion-basic-marriage-enrichment-4

18 December 2017

"Who Would Want to be Such a Twit?"

Dear Ladies,

I hope that all of you have experienced a blessed December thus far.  I have been busy working on myself and healing from some long-term emotional issues and a short-term physical issue (bronchitis).  Although my voice is still not 100%, I wanted to proceed with the overdue podcast of lesson three, which concerns the Ideal Woman.

Blessings to you and yours!

Agape always,
Cynthia

Link:  https://soundcloud.com/user-567009577/a-fascinating-companion-basic-marriage-enrichment-three

15 November 2017

Wondering Wednesday: Naughty Selfies for Mr. Husband?

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Dear Ladies,

I hope that everyone is feeling well, doing good, and sharing her joie de vivre with others.

This week's Wondering Wednesday came from a perplexed wife.  She and her husband were separated due to his deployment and she wanted to send to her husband a photograph of herself in her underwear.

Sounds pretty tame, right?

As always, I never say, "Here is what you should do" because I don't know anyone who writes to me personally; rather, I say, "Here is what I would do or what I have done in a similar situation."  

In this case, I have a personal experience to share, so my answer is based on what I have done when presented with such a situation in the past.  

Let's start with some history.  When my late husband and I were separated due to his deployment in 2007, there was a fad of military wives sending their husbands photographs that were for his eyes only, to be carried on his phone where he could view them anywhere. (The ability to send photographs via cell phone was brand new then, and leave it to the military mind to come up with a new use for technology. [dry humor])  

Naturally, my favorite Marine wanted a photograph of me and asked why I had not joined in with the other wives.  I thought for a few minutes and decided he was shaking the pedestal, which I tried to treat as though he was playing a prank or joking, at least at first, so I wrote back:  "LOL: It must be April Fool's Day in [place]."

Nope.  He was serious.  Floating in a sea of loneliness and stress, he wanted me to do something with which I was very uncomfortable, at minimum, and which was probably a sin according to our mutually held faith.

This time, I thought for a few hours and made several "T-chart" lists, pro and con.  Here was the major "con" that I came up with and that ended the discussion:

"What if you lose your phone?  I don't want [name of enemy] or [name of a certain man who had expressed interest in me - ick!] looking at me."

(I didn't ask "What if you are taken prisoner?" because the thought was too horrible to bear.)

Where humor had failed, dread won the day.  And those remain my basic concerns about sending such photographs.  

A few years ago, I replied to one person's text, and another person received my text.  These mix-ups happen.  A photograph could be sent to Mr. Husband and end up someplace quite unintended.

"Mobile devices" as they are now called are lost or stolen every day.   

Co-workers and friends also snoop on each others' mobiles. 

Therefore, I personally would not take "naughty selfies," nor would I send them to my husband (or to anyone else, for that matter).

As always, I hope that my little "woman-to-woman" ideas have helped.

Agape always,
Cynthia

PS: If my husband had persisted and had made the photograph a submission issue, I would have spoken to our priest for guidance.